The Cure to Loneliness: Finding a Guru

Copyright 2006 Alanna KaivalyaYoga came into my life in a fairly traditional
Many people ask me if I can recommend where they(American) way. I started going to classes during
should study yoga on their travels to the birthplacecollege simply for health reasons, which is the way
of this ancient Indian philosophy. I humbly admit tomost people enter into a yoga practice. Something
them that I have never been to India. My gurus arevery strong took hold, and I've been an avid
in New York-and they are American.practitioner since. A nagging desire sent me to study
Most people are surprised at this admission. Theywith Sharon Gannon and David Life, and my whole
question me regarding this. After all, if I am a yogi,world turned upside down. In their presence, I
shouldn't my guru be an Indian man? Well, the guruslearned what the term "guru" meant. In short, I
of my gurus are Indian men, but in my case, I looklearned to surrender to another being who could
into the soft brown eyes and pale skin of my gurusshow me my true Light.
when I bow before them.I know what you're thinking, Wow, that's some
It's funny. yoga has taken such a hold in America,pretty esoteric, frou frou talk for a western girl!
yet some misconceptions are still etched in theBelieve me, I would have thought so myself before I
practice. For example, we think yoga is practiced instood in their presence, but something in me shifted
hot rooms just because it is hot in India; we haveas I listened to them talk at my teacher training. I
this image in our minds of ancient yogis practicingfelt that strong sense of individuality that Americans
warrior two and sun salutations, and we think that inprize so highly start to slip away. Suddenly, life wasn't
order to be a true guru, your nationality matters.all about me anymore, and for the first time, I didn't
In this day and age of yoga, its evolution has taken afeel alone. To put it bluntly, loneliness is nasty. A
major turn, one towards the west. More westernersstudy by the National Institute of Aging says that,
are doing yoga today, at least the practice we define"People who feel lonely have more health problems
as yoga, than Indians. There is a saying now thatand a shorter life expectancy than those who do not
there is more yoga on the lower east side offeel lonely." Loneliness plagues Americans; it causes
Manhattan than there is in all of India. Westernersstress, shortens our lives, and, in general, makes us a
have taken yoga to the next level-a level of fitness,despondent and sorrowful lot.
industry, and fashion-yet many yogis still try toWell, I've found the cure for this common American
remain close to the roots of yoga.disease called loneliness, and it's a guru. Yes, finding
One of the ways that yogis strive to remain closelysomeone who will 'ru' (remove) your 'gu' (darkness or
tied to the true purpose of the practice is bymuck) is a surefire way to find peace and a release
tightening their grip on what they think is mostfrom the ills that plague you. You see, we are all like
"classical," the finding of a guru. This is, in my opinion,tiny drops of the ocean wandering around, and until
the most important piece of yogic philosophicalwe get back, we don't have the great vast sea of
principles. While the west has shaped yoga andknowledge or bliss from which to draw. One of the
turned it into an amazing practice that many peoplequickest ways to get back to the ocean is to find
need right now, the one thing that hasn't seemed toyourself a guru, a person or group of people, who
catch up with this tidal wave is the idea of a guru.can teach you life's greatest lessons without your
Many practitioners think that it's not important. Inprotest and without your ego saying, "I'm going to
truth, some think that guru is a bad word, and thosedo it my way." Some people think that surrender to
who get over the stigma of what a guru tends toa guru makes you bland and uninteresting, but by
represent think a practitioner has to go to India toadding your drop of the ocean back into the
find one. This is simply not true. Yoga, as we know it,voluminous sea, you actually have more to draw
is largely a western phenomenon, and it is westernfrom and can become a much more rich and vibrant
yogis who have created it and helped it to evolveindividual.
into the practice we know today. It is they whoYou don't have to travel to India; you don't even
have crafted the practical application of yoga forhave to be Indian. You don't even have to practice
modern day living, so why should we not turn toyoga very much to find a guru. The great thing is
them to learn all we can of their designs? Whether itabout this tradition is that "when the student is
is Ashtanga, Iyengar, Kripalu, Jivamukti, Viniyoga,ready, the teacher will appear," so, sit back, relax, be
Power yoga, or any of the other multitudinousreceptive to all the lessons life brings to you, and get
options, all these practices have very strong roots inready to discover yoga's untapped resource-the
the west and truly adroit western yogis at theirtremendous power of surrender to a guru.
respective helms.