The Cure to Loneliness: Finding a Guru

Many people ask me if I can recommend where theyYoga came into my life in a fairly traditional
should study yoga on their travels to the birthplace(American) way. I started going to classes during
of this ancient Indian philosophy. I humbly admit tocollege simply for health reasons, which is the way
them that I have never been to India. My gurus aremost people enter into a yoga practice. Something
in New York-and they are American.very strong took hold, and I've been an avid
Most people are surprised at this admission. Theypractitioner since. A nagging desire sent me to study
question me regarding this. After all, if I am a yogi,with Sharon Gannon and David Life, and my whole
shouldn't my guru be an Indian man? Well, the gurusworld turned upside down. In their presence, I
of my gurus are Indian men, but in my case, I looklearned what the term "guru" meant. In short, I
into the soft brown eyes and pale skin of my guruslearned to surrender to another being who could
when I bow before them.show me my true Light.
It's funny. yoga has taken such a hold in America,I know what you're thinking, Wow, that's some
yet some misconceptions are still etched in thepretty esoteric, frou frou talk for a western girl!
practice. For example, we think yoga is practiced inBelieve me, I would have thought so myself before I
hot rooms just because it is hot in India; we havestood in their presence, but something in me shifted
this image in our minds of ancient yogis practicingas I listened to them talk at my teacher training. I
warrior two and sun salutations, and we think that infelt that strong sense of individuality that Americans
order to be a true guru, your nationality matters.prize so highly start to slip away. Suddenly, life wasn't
In this day and age of yoga, its evolution has taken aall about me anymore, and for the first time, I didn't
major turn, one towards the west. More westernersfeel alone. To put it bluntly, loneliness is nasty. A
are doing yoga today, at least the practice we definestudy by the National Institute of Aging says that,
as yoga, than Indians. There is a saying now that"People who feel lonely have more health problems
there is more yoga on the lower east side ofand a shorter life expectancy than those who do not
Manhattan than there is in all of India. Westernersfeel lonely." Loneliness plagues Americans; it causes
have taken yoga to the next level-a level of fitness,stress, shortens our lives, and, in general, makes us a
industry, and fashion-yet many yogis still try todespondent and sorrowful lot.
remain close to the roots of yoga.Well, I've found the cure for this common American
One of the ways that yogis strive to remain closelydisease called loneliness, and it's a guru. Yes, finding
tied to the true purpose of the practice is bysomeone who will 'ru' (remove) your 'gu' (darkness or
tightening their grip on what they think is mostmuck) is a surefire way to find peace and a release
"classical," the finding of a guru. This is, in my opinion,from the ills that plague you. You see, we are all like
the most important piece of yogic philosophicaltiny drops of the ocean wandering around, and until
principles. While the west has shaped yoga andwe get back, we don't have the great vast sea of
turned it into an amazing practice that many peopleknowledge or bliss from which to draw. One of the
need right now, the one thing that hasn't seemed toquickest ways to get back to the ocean is to find
catch up with this tidal wave is the idea of a guru.yourself a guru, a person or group of people, who
Many practitioners think that it's not important. Incan teach you life's greatest lessons without your
truth, some think that guru is a bad word, and thoseprotest and without your ego saying, "I'm going to
who get over the stigma of what a guru tends todo it my way." Some people think that surrender to
represent think a practitioner has to go to India toa guru makes you bland and uninteresting, but by
find one. This is simply not true. Yoga, as we know it,adding your drop of the ocean back into the
is largely a western phenomenon, and it is westernvoluminous sea, you actually have more to draw
yogis who have created it and helped it to evolvefrom and can become a much more rich and vibrant
into the practice we know today. It is they whoindividual.
have crafted the practical application of yoga forYou don't have to travel to India; you don't even
modern day living, so why should we not turn tohave to be Indian. You don't even have to practice
them to learn all we can of their designs? Whether ityoga very much to find a guru. The great thing is
is Ashtanga, Iyengar, Kripalu, Jivamukti, Viniyoga,about this tradition is that "when the student is
Power yoga, or any of the other multitudinousready, the teacher will appear," so, sit back, relax, be
options, all these practices have very strong roots inreceptive to all the lessons life brings to you, and get
the west and truly adroit western yogis at theirready to discover yoga's untapped resource-the
respective helms.tremendous power of surrender to a guru.