| your heart ache so much you feel as if you may be | | | | your emotions. |
| having a heart attack? Do you spend more time | | | | DON'T play the same song that reminds you of your |
| alone and shut people out? Do you feel as though | | | | ex over and over again just to make yourself cry. |
| you have no appetite? Do you feel like crying when | | | | Crying is okay, but don't make yourself cry on |
| you listen to music? If you answered yes to any of | | | | purpose. |
| these questions, you are probably suffering from | | | | 6. DO burn old pictures of your ex. It's a very good |
| what we call in layman's terms, a "broken heart." | | | | cleansing ritual and will help break ties to the past. |
| Whether it was you or the other person who ended | | | | (Do it safely though, like in a fireplace.) |
| it, or whether you were with the person at all does | | | | DON'T make a voodoo doll of your ex and stick pins |
| not affect how much or how long you are hurting. | | | | through the heart and private parts. |
| Broken hearts are unpredictable, you never really see | | | | 7. DO hang out with your single friends and see what |
| them coming and you don't know how long they'll | | | | else is out there on the dating market. |
| stay. You feel sorry for yourself, wallowing in a | | | | DON'T make empty threats of killing yourself if your |
| murky puddle of self-pity. Your best friends are the | | | | ex won't be with you. (You'd be surprised at how |
| ones who see you through, dragging you out of bed, | | | | many people do this.) |
| diverting your attention to more positive things. | | | | 8. DO exude confidence if you run into your ex. Your |
| Every day you wake up wishing it had been a | | | | ex will be happy if you look fine and it may even |
| nightmare. | | | | make them want to get back together with you. |
| There are many do's and don'ts I like to associate | | | | DON'T throw yourself at your ex when you see |
| with a break-up. Here are the top 10: | | | | them, crying uncontrollably and reminding them of |
| 1. DO take a shower and get dressed to look your | | | | any promises they made to you while you were |
| best. If you do run into your ex, you want to look | | | | together. |
| like the person they originally fell in love with. | | | | 9. DO go places where you might run into your ex, if |
| DON'T lay in bed for more than 2 days, because the | | | | that's what you want. |
| longer you stay there, the harder it will be to get out | | | | DON'T drive past your ex's house, call him and hang |
| of it. | | | | up, or participate in any similar stalker behavior. The |
| 2. DO write your ex a short and sweet text | | | | last thing you want is a restraining order. |
| message saying that you're thinking of them. | | | | 10. DO wait until you're calm to talk to your ex. Then |
| DON'T call them every 10 minutes hysterically. | | | | you can be mature about things and not say |
| 3. DO go out with your friends and have fun. Forget | | | | anything you may regret. |
| about your ex for awhile. | | | | DON'T do the "personal belonging swap" just as a |
| DON'T go out drinking and then call your ex. Chances | | | | desperate passive aggressive excuse to see your ex. |
| are, you may not remember what you said and they | | | | Usually most of these belongings are something we |
| may be very annoyed. (I like to call this "Don't Drink | | | | can live without or replace for very little cost. Only |
| and Dial.") | | | | do it if it means breaking the last tie to your ex, |
| 4. DO talk to someone close to you to help you sort | | | | because if you do it, you will have no excuse ever to |
| through your feelings. | | | | have to see your ex again. |
| DON'T bash your ex to anyone who will listen | | | | Almost everybody has been through a bad break-up |
| because if you do end up getting back together, | | | | and almost everybody has survived. You can, too. If |
| your friends and family will end up hating them. | | | | you're interested in learning more on this matter, click |
| 5. DO take a yoga or meditation class to get over | | | | on the link below. |