Healing the Wounded Healer, Oprah Winfrey, and Me

This week I officially started my book tour. For manyetc but nowhere did I hear anything about solitude,
years I have done radio interviews promoting what Imeditation, contemplation, stillness as something they
thought was going to be the soon release of mywere putting into her schedule. Now, I know she
book The LifeQuake Phenomenon and then a suddenbelieves in these things. She’s covered spiritual
upheaval in my own LifeQuake journey would forcetopics on many shows but I think addiction needs to
me to put the book aside and deal with the healthbe addressed more on the show from the hunger to
crisis du jour that was presenting itself at theknow one’s inner life.
moment. What each illness I encountered had inIn depth psychology, we talk about something called
common was that they were incurable by modernarchetypes – a symbol that serves as a model
medicine. Each time I went on a search to be healed,for something that people can relate to within an
I discovered that I had to find the answers myselfentire culture or collective consciousness. For
and in turn disseminate the information to help othersexample, the archetype of the queen is one that
in the same boat.people the world over understand. So when we talk
And then I finally finished it. I had to leave town andabout it for the individual, we ask, where does the
hole myself up 125 miles away to get it done but alasqueen live inside you? When does she show up? 
it did get done. My first book was published.There is another archetype that is relatively new to
While doing a radio interview on my book, the talkwestern culture and it is called the archetype of The
show host asked me this question: “If I couldWounded Healer. Just as many archetypes come
give Oprah Winfrey advice, what would I tell her?from mythology, the wounded healer is represented
“ Now, Oprah has the crème de la crème ofin Greek mythology by a centaur whose name is
fitness, psychology, and spiritual gurus at her beckChiron. Centaurs in Greek mythology had the  lower
and call so who was I to tell Oprah anything shetorso and legs of a horse and the upper torso was
hadn’t already heard? And yet, in watching herhuman. As I tell the story of Chiron, I will interweave
show as she reported the feedbacks she received,Oprah’s story as well. Chiron was rejected by his
there was one piece I thought was missing. Yes,mother at birth. Oprah experienced rejection in the
food addiction can be a reflection of not enough fun,form of neglect from her own mother who failed to
not enough self-care, and too much work. And yes, itprotect her from being raped by family members and
is good to ask the question, what am I reallylater impregnated at the age of fourteen when she
hungering for? But one thing bothered me: she keptwas running the streets unsupervised by any parental
using the word control to describe the problem,authority.
“getting control over my being”, she said. Eventually, Chiron was adopted by the great god
She also denied being depressed. Now, I don’tApollo who schooled him in the arts, sciences, and
think Oprah Winfrey is clinically depressed but I domysteries. Oprah was sent to her biological father
think she’s in a LifeQuake. This time I don’tafter she became pregnant and he put big demands
think this weight gain is a symptom of her oldon her to shape up and do well in school or he was
addiction to food. This time I think it is more agoing to send her back. Chiron incurred an incurable
symptom of a LifeQuake. The crisis part of thewound in his knee that sent him searching the world
seven stages of a LifeQuake are the labor pains ofover for a cure. The knee is symbolic of ego will
the soul birthing itself into its next level of evolution. Iversus bending onto your knees to spirit. Although it
think who Oprah Winfrey has been is being called tonever healed, he gathered herbs and remedies that
die and be released to an even bigger self. I think herhelped others to heal. Through Oprah’s struggle
soul is crying out to bring the content of what shewith her wound around her weight she has helped
allows herself to talk about on her radio show intomillions who suffer with a food addiction.
broadcast television. Yes, she has had Eckart Tolle onThe myth of Chiron has become linked with the path
and Michael Beckwith and Elizabeth Lesser but thereof the shaman who must undergo ego death after
is a bigger mandate and it is to help peopleego death so that his/her role as teacher, healer, and
understand that the chaos we are in is part of thissage is pure and unencumbered by the arrogance
evolutionary leap in consciousness. Many people areone can acquire through being seen as a god. The
coping by turning to addictions and distractions.world worships Oprah Winfrey. What has kept her
A reporter interviewing me asked me last weekhumble and in touch with humanity’s suffering is
what my thoughts were on newlyweds cruisingher own suffering. What liberates the wounded
internet dating sites. Supposedly, one million peoplehealer is the acceptance of the role he/she must play
who are married a year or less had come to this onein the transformation of others.  Yes, Oprah needs
site last year. This shocked even me and I thoughtmore balance in her life, more fun but she may also
I’d heard it all. My point here is that the rise ofneed to embrace the high purpose of this challenge. I
addictive, compulsive behavior is a part of this birthingsubmit that it would be possible for her to eat
process. It doesn’t have to be that way. Therewhatever she wanted and not gain weight if she was
are people (I interviewed some of them for myallowing herself to speak out even more to her
book) who recognize that their lives are not workingdaytime tv audience ( not just the internet or radio)
satisfactorily and they do something about it. Theyon the importance of developing the inner life,
don’t numb themselves out, but the largestillness and meditation. As we know, women have
majority of people are dragged to their destiny aftermore thyroid disorders than men (the thyroid is in the
a lot of trauma and drama.throat) and women are taught to stifle their
Back to Oprah. Oprah did a show where her staffauthentic voice more often than men. Do you think
showed how they were putting in her schedule morethere’s a connection?
down time to get a manicure, to have time for lunch,