| Does your past experience influence the success of | | | | stay in breakdown mode. John Maxwell also states |
| your current home business? Many people | | | | that "Every major difficulty you face in life is a fork |
| concentrate on past hurts or wounds so that they | | | | in the road. You choose which track you will head |
| can't transform their future. | | | | down, toward breakdown or breakthrough." |
| They think that since their previous businesses were | | | | It all depends on you. What do you want? Do you |
| unsuccessful, their current business will fail. Or they so | | | | want to move forward and breakthrough your pain? |
| identify with being an abuse victim that it impacts | | | | Or do you want to stay a hostage to past wounds? |
| every aspect of their life. | | | | Choosing to experience a breakthrough will take |
| But if you want to move forward and grow, you | | | | work. It may be very hard work, but the results are |
| have to decide what you will focus on. Will you | | | | worth it. |
| concentrate on the pain of the past or the | | | | Is there a past hurt that you would like to process? |
| opportunity that lies in the future? | | | | The first step is to acknowledge the pain that you |
| John C. Maxwell, in his book, Failing Forward, states | | | | may feel. Don't deny your feelings. You may want to |
| that "The problems of people's pasts impact them in | | | | write about it or express your feelings artistically. |
| one of two ways: They experience either a | | | | Give yourself permission to grieve the loss. |
| breakdown or a breakthrough." | | | | Is there anyone who you need to forgive in this |
| People who haven't gotten over their past difficulties | | | | situation, maybe even yourself? Choose to forgive |
| manifest five key qualities. The first quality is | | | | them. It may not be easy. You may seek a |
| comparison; they constantly complain that their pain is | | | | professional to help you in this process. |
| always much greater than everyone else's. | | | | It's important to realize that forgiveness is a process |
| They rationalize and make excuses for not dealing | | | | that takes time. You may have to revisit the |
| with past challenges. This rationalization prevents | | | | situation several times to become truly healed of this |
| them from finding solutions to their problems. | | | | experience. However, revisiting a painful situation to |
| Some people isolate themselves from others to | | | | experience healing is not the same as rehashing it in |
| protect themselves from getting hurt. Other people | | | | the "poor me" mode. |
| will constantly regret past experiences and remain in | | | | As you do the forgiveness work and choose to |
| the past. Regret drains their energy and prevents | | | | forgive the people who hurt you, you release your |
| them from moving forward. Someone who always | | | | ties to the past wounds. You are transforming your |
| goes over past hurts and wounds will become bitter. | | | | past wounds as you breakthrough to an amazing |
| However, there is another option. You don't have to | | | | future. You are failing forward! |